Just like storms that exponentially grow the roots of a mighty oak, conflicts grow people and relationships……as long as the Rules of Engagement are fair, respectful and connective. For this reason, irrespective of the specific grievance-du-jour, Dr. Blair focuses the couple on process rather than content. Within the context of a couple’s issues, Dr. Blair educates and facilitates strategies which underscore the notion that the partnership is more important than the conflict.
The individuals are coached to keep their eyes on the goal of win-win; the relationship loses if either partner perceives win-lose. She encourages couples to invest time in establishing and then practicing an agreed-upon approach to resolving issues with all possible escape routes sealed off. The state of the union is always a co-creation with each partner being 100% responsible for his or her own role. Couples counseling will often reveal individual issues that need attention, and taking personal responsibility is the cornerstone of all positive change. A good relationship necessarily requires two individuals with the maturity and humility to take responsibility
for their part.